Comments on: Femdom Audio – Spanking My New Male Slave http://www.extremefemdomstories.com/2010/04/26/femdom-spanking-male-slave/ Personal Diary of a Dominatrix - Stories from My Life - Thoughts on BDSM and Phone Sex Tue, 20 Sep 2011 13:44:57 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Tweets that mention Femdom Audio – Spanking My New Male Slave -- Topsy.com http://www.extremefemdomstories.com/2010/04/26/femdom-spanking-male-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-199 Tweets that mention Femdom Audio – Spanking My New Male Slave -- Topsy.com Thu, 29 Apr 2010 05:44:00 +0000 http://www.extremefemdomstories.com/?p=1045#comment-199 [...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Domina Cinara. Domina Cinara said: Recorded a new free femdom audio for my blog - male spanking - [...] [...] This post was mentioned on Twitter by Domina Cinara. Domina Cinara said: Recorded a new free femdom audio for my blog – male spanking – [...]

]]> By: Domina Cinara http://www.extremefemdomstories.com/2010/04/26/femdom-spanking-male-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-192 Domina Cinara Wed, 28 Apr 2010 00:56:27 +0000 http://www.extremefemdomstories.com/?p=1045#comment-192 With most everything in BDSM, there is a sort of paradox... and not just with "punishment" being something the slave often enjoys. (Hell, think about what "slave" often means in reality with some, especially compared to the true definition of the word and its historical examples.) Orgasm denial, like I've said, can be a very effective means of control and discipline for a male sex slave... but, at the same time... said slave usually gets enjoyment out of it, since the very discipline and punishment he is suffering, is very arousing to him. Male spanking is something I enjoy ~grinz~... and yes, most slave boys obviously enjoy it too. Often it will be "fantasy fulfillment" to some degree... but that doesnt have to be a problem - that fulfillment itself can be manipulated and used against the slave. If he enjoys it, it's yet another thing that can be played with... denied... teased... twisted... rewarded... etc. The key really is in the manipulation of a situation you create and control. Yes the slave may enjoy the spanking... but the dominatrix is the one who decides when it will happen... how it will happen... how long it will occur... how abruptly it may stop... and what will happen after it... etc. And most importantly... she determines what surrounds the situation... the context, atmosphere and attitude... "fantasy fulfillment" depends on more than just the spanking itself. There are ways to very easily suck the fulfillment out of any punishment fantasy to truly make it effective discipline... just by changing your attitude and letting the slave know you are truly disappointed/unhappy with him. (Admittedly... while this particular angle is effective with men, it is even more so with female slaves). The single event of the spanking isnt the whole... its part of a well constructed web being weaved around the slave. Besides... there is a certain point where anything enjoyable will cease being enjoyed... it you do it in a way that is not enjoyable. With most everything in BDSM, there is a sort of paradox… and not just with “punishment” being something the slave often enjoys. (Hell, think about what “slave” often means in reality with some, especially compared to the true definition of the word and its historical examples.)

Orgasm denial, like I’ve said, can be a very effective means of control and discipline for a male sex slave… but, at the same time… said slave usually gets enjoyment out of it, since the very discipline and punishment he is suffering, is very arousing to him.

Male spanking is something I enjoy ~grinz~… and yes, most slave boys obviously enjoy it too. Often it will be “fantasy fulfillment” to some degree… but that doesnt have to be a problem – that fulfillment itself can be manipulated and used against the slave. If he enjoys it, it’s yet another thing that can be played with… denied… teased… twisted… rewarded… etc.

The key really is in the manipulation of a situation you create and control.

Yes the slave may enjoy the spanking… but the dominatrix is the one who decides when it will happen… how it will happen… how long it will occur… how abruptly it may stop… and what will happen after it… etc.

And most importantly… she determines what surrounds the situation… the context, atmosphere and attitude… “fantasy fulfillment” depends on more than just the spanking itself. There are ways to very easily suck the fulfillment out of any punishment fantasy to truly make it effective discipline… just by changing your attitude and letting the slave know you are truly disappointed/unhappy with him. (Admittedly… while this particular angle is effective with men, it is even more so with female slaves).

The single event of the spanking isnt the whole… its part of a well constructed web being weaved around the slave.

Besides… there is a certain point where anything enjoyable will cease being enjoyed… it you do it in a way that is not enjoyable.

]]> By: michael http://www.extremefemdomstories.com/2010/04/26/femdom-spanking-male-slave/comment-page-1/#comment-191 michael Tue, 27 Apr 2010 22:44:56 +0000 http://www.extremefemdomstories.com/?p=1045#comment-191 That was an incredibly hot audio, Domina. I bet every submissive listening to it fantasizes about being put over your knee for a good spanking. But you are talking about spanking as punishment or discipline, not the wish fulfillment of some submissive. So I guess my question is, what do you do to make sure the spanking is real punishment, and not just the fantasy fulfillment of the submissive? Is there some sign you look for, etc? That was an incredibly hot audio, Domina. I bet every submissive listening to it fantasizes about being put over your knee for a good spanking. But you are talking about spanking as punishment or discipline, not the wish fulfillment of some submissive. So I guess my question is, what do you do to make sure the spanking is real punishment, and not just the fantasy fulfillment of the submissive? Is there some sign you look for, etc?

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